Does it have feet?
Having had several months now to feel comfortable in my own skin, and to take on board there might be another person in my life. I find myself asking myself the question ‘Does this have feet?” At this moment in time you are either laughing or feeling somewhat puzzled. Of course people have feet.
I have two which is the normal quota, however I am not asking this of my own feet or in fact anyone else.
The question poses “Does this new ‘relationship’ have feet?” Now that is a strange question to ask, the one thing I am trying to fathom out is ‘is this relationship going to go anywhere?’ Hence the feet, for without them your rather static. (I know there are other ways of moving, its just the feet are the most obvious one.)
The answer is “I DON’T KNOW”. its not that I want to know, its just that most relationships leave me knowing instantly. This time it doesn’t I really don’t have a clue.
Often after a few dates you have a pretty good idea about compatibility. Sometimes the oddest things make you compatible. I have to say this one, we are very opposite. Loud, quiet, intense, light, stressed, laid back, and so the list goes on. I have found that its very Yin Yan. It is also having surprising affects on myself. I have noticed I am becoming more laid back, lighter and perhaps a little quieter. Thinking more and actually doing and saying what I want rather than what someone else wants me to do or to say.
I have been wondering what we have in common, the answer keeps coming up the same. ‘we are human’. Odd I know. Yet there is something quite nice about not having much in common and that compatibility is quite thin on the ground.
I have found myself doing more things that I would never have tried before. There seems to be a huge amount of trust and for me that’s the ‘biggie’. I find myself being more chilled out, going with the flow and not worried about anything being set in concrete. It really is quite an uplifting and refreshing way of seeing life.
Do I like it? Yes I do, I think its more me, no constraints, no expectations, no focus and no agenda. My goodness have I waited all these years to be ME with another person? I can honestly say. I’m loving it, and may it last as long as it wants to.